Groping
What it is
Touching someone's body without their consent. Being your partner doesn't change that. Consent isn't a permanent contract — it's given each time, or it isn't given.
How it gets justified
“We're a couple — I can touch you whenever I want.”
Being a couple isn't a contract for permanent access to the other person's body. Consent is moment-to-moment, or it isn't there. The body flagged the invasion — that read is correct.
“Don't be dramatic — I'm just touching you.”
If the touch wasn't welcome, it isn't a caress. The body knows the difference between contact you wanted and contact that was imposed. You don't have to justify the difference.
Related patterns
Something feels off but you can't name it?
An exercise to listen to what the body already knows.