Financial abuse
What it is
Controlling access to money, blocking work, or engineering economic dependence as a way to keep someone from leaving. Leaving requires resources — and those resources are locked.
Does this sound familiar?
"What do you need a job for? I support you."
"Hand over your salary — I'm better at managing it."
No access to your own accounts, cards, or cash.
How it gets justified
“I handle the money because I'm better at it.”
Sharing money management is one thing. Sole control is another. Without access to your own money, you lose the material option to leave. He knows that.
“Why do you want your own money? Are you planning something?”
Treating financial autonomy as suspicion is the strategy. Resources give you options. Blocking resources closes them.
Related patterns
Something feels off but you can't name it?
An exercise to listen to what the body already knows.