Pushing, grabbing
What it is
Using physical force to move you, stop you, or scare you. It isn't "losing it" — it's using a body as a tool of dominance.
How it gets justified
“I just moved you — I didn't hit you.”
Using physical force to move someone's body without consent is violence. The line between "moved" and "hit" is artificial. The body registers one thing: someone used their body to dominate yours.
“You weren't listening.”
Not listening doesn't authorize physical force. The other person's body isn't a resource for dealing with frustration. Physical violence isn't communication — it's dominance.
Related patterns
Something feels off but you can't name it?
An exercise to listen to what the body already knows.