About this tool
What it is
The Relationship Safety Gradient is a clarity tool. Every pattern in the list is a relational behavior the nervous system registers — even when the mind doesn't yet have words for it. Here you'll find the name, the phrases that usually carry it, and the reading from the nervous system's point of view.
TEG-Blue
TEG-Blue is a framework that synthesizes 145+ peer-reviewed theories — neuroscience, developmental psychology, polyvagal theory, somatic systems — into an architecture for how the nervous system processes emotional signals. This tool applies that framework to relationships: translating behaviors into the language of safety, threat, and regulation the body is already using.
How to read the gradient
The gradient flows from what barely gets named to what threatens life. It isn't a severity scale — it's a visibility scale. What's at the top isn't "less harmful": it's what the nervous system registers before the mind has words for it. Recognizing it early is what makes acting earlier possible.
The four bands are deliberately unlabeled. What matters is the pattern, not the category.
Lineage
The original Violentómetro was created in 2009 by Dra. Martha Alicia Tronco Rosas at the Instituto Politécnico Nacional in Mexico. Sixteen years of fieldwork, validation with thousands of students, international reach. This tool inherits that tradition — the gradient as pedagogy — and reorganizes it around the nervous system. It doesn't replace the original; it extends it.
A TEG-Blue tool · Open-source · The Violentómetro concept is intellectual property of IPN.